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Thanksgiving 9 Years ago

BAMAAKBAMAAK Senior MemberPosts: 4,484 Senior Member
My wifes last Thanksgiving, too weak to cook, my girls and I did our first turkey and trimmings. It was the last decent meal Vicky had and the last decent time we had with her. She entered the hospital Monday and passed on Dec 16 at 45 yrs old, most of that time in an induced coma. Toughest thing I ever had to do and I still have nightmares about, agreeing to let them stop giving her blood, essentially letting her bleed to death. I know medically it was the right choice but I will go to my grave wishing I said no.

Cancer sucks.

Sorry for the vent but it makes me feel better and I do have lots to be thankful for, just wish I was sharing it with her.
"He only earns his freedom and his life Who takes them every day by storm."

-- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, German writer and politician

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  • agewonagewon Senior Member Posts: 655 Senior Member
    Sometimes the hardest decisions we make are for other people. I can't imagine the feelings you have right now, but the thought of doing the right thing should give you peace.
    There are always things to be thankful for, but it's the things that we do that "need to be done" that define us.
    Enjoy the day as best you can, with whomever you can, and rest easy.
  • CHIRO1989CHIRO1989 Senior Member Posts: 13,864 Senior Member
    Venting is OK, Just Prayed for some peace.
    I take no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but rather that they turn away from their ways and live. Eze 33:11
  • SirGeorgeKillianSirGeorgeKillian Senior Member Posts: 5,463 Senior Member
    CHIRO1989 wrote: »
    Venting is OK, Just Prayed for some peace.

    That and that.
    Unless life also hands you water and sugar, your lemonade is gonna suck!
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  • JayhawkerJayhawker Moderator Posts: 17,872 Senior Member
    CHIRO1989 wrote: »
    Venting is OK, Just Prayed for some peace.

    Yes, God rest her soul and may you and your children find peace...
    Sharps Model 1874 - "The rifle that made the west safe for Winchester"
  • woodsrunnerwoodsrunner Senior Member Posts: 2,725 Senior Member
    Cancer sucks......

    That is why I donate some percentage of my grits/cornmeal profits (it varies with business expenses) to the Mayo Clinic for cancer research. All of us have lost close family members to this horrible disease....all of us! The progress that Mayo has made in cancer research is awesome beyond belief! Do your research on this and see what I am talking about!

    BAMAAK, your position is understood, and I admire you for it. Some of us have faced this issue also. I did with a son many, many years ago. What I see in what you are expressing is total devotion and love of a mate and a family. This speaks far more than you realize, and I admire you for your devotion. Be gentle with yourself.
  • BigDanSBigDanS Senior Member Posts: 6,992 Senior Member
    She is at rest, and I pray you find peace.

    D
    "A patriot is mocked, scorned and hated; yet when his cause succeeds, all men will join him, for then it costs nothing to be a patriot." Mark Twain
    Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms and Explosives.... now who's bringing the hot wings? :jester:
  • BAMAAKBAMAAK Senior Member Posts: 4,484 Senior Member
    Thank you one and all for your thoughts and inspirations. This year seemed harder for some reason then the past couple. I guess because I told my granddaughter some stories about her now that she is getting old enough to kind of understand and ask questions about her. At dinner when asked what she was thankful for, she simply said "Jesus". I'm sure because she was told that is where her Grandma is.
    "He only earns his freedom and his life Who takes them every day by storm."

    -- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, German writer and politician
  • 5280 shooter II5280 shooter II Senior Member Posts: 3,923 Senior Member
    Big brother-hug to ya man.
    God show's mercy on drunks and dumb animals.........two outa three ain't a bad score!
  • hawk18hawk18 Senior Member Posts: 742 Senior Member
    Don't apologize. Venting is OK.

    The memories that you dug up weren't buried very deep. We spent Thanksgiving '04 at Ronald McDonald House, next door to Dornbecker in Portland, OR. Very bitter/sweet memories.

    Hawk
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