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Suicide or Personal Choice?
I just got a call from an ex-coworker’s daughter who committed suicide. He wanted me to be a pallbearer which I will do and pay my last respects. My problem is Sid had to go out on disability because he had contracted ALS and it progressed quick on him. In about 3 years he went from an active man to a shell in a wheel chair who was looking at respiratory problems were he was going to be going on a respirator in the near future. He saved up some of his meds and yesterday took them. While I tear up for his death I can only think he made his own choice and I can accept that and I can’t be sure but by her tone and words I think his daughter might also. Am I wrong to feel for his passing but to also think he chose to not suffer and respect it. I know it’s Biblically wrong but some how I gotta feel God will understand.
God speed Sid ...
God speed Sid ...
“The further a society drifts from truth ... the more it will hate those who speak it."
- George Orwell
- George Orwell
-- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, German writer and politician
Yep, me too.
I have no children, and never intend to...mainly because I truly have no interest in raising them, but also I want to keep the option of "a short walk in the woods with a shotgun" open, and don't think I could do that if I had children.
In a case like you say I have no issue and respect the decision.
As a young teen I watched my grandfather go from a strong, active and healthy man to quivering and eventually near motionless and speechless shell due to Parkinson's disease, yet be completely lucid, carrying him to the dinner table in my arms and having to hold and sort out his feed tube is something I'll never forget, as is the guilt of eating in front of him.
I'll not put my family through that, and I won't put myself through that, if I ever end up down that road I'll be having a "hunting accident", if he had his time again I think Grandad would be the same.
At a certain point, the amount of medication needed to prevent suffering intersects with the amount needed to cause death, and a good doctor probably just lets that happen, with a clear conscience.
Plus, I'm the kind to not give up. Fight until it takes me.
This is where I'm at. I lost both of my parents last year and they had done the "do not revive" paperwork several years ago to avoid being kept in a vegetative state once their systems started to shut down.
Having said all that, I feel sorta like Bullsi. I'd be waitng for the miracle cure to come along at the last minute or lightning to strike out of the clear blue.
Son that's somebody with nothing to do with his time but keep me in trouble with mom.
some people project their beliefs on others and expect them to abide by a belief not theirs, if they have any.
in the end its between the person and their deity, if they have or believe in one.
- Don Burt
Misplaced modifiers....at first read, I thought his daughter had committed suicide.
But having went through a Hospice situation, it cuts both ways. A Hospice nurse said that in the final days, an understanding of the hereafter is reached in some cases. It didn't happen (that I know of) in my wife's situation, but she didn't want suicide, either. I'm an old man now and don't want to dribble my way in the end of life but neither do I want to put a gun to my head for the sake of my child/grand children. And I doubt my courage in that regard. So, we'll see. Hopefully, I'll die in my sleep.
"Nothing is safe from stupid." - Zee
Yep - I'll remove myself from modern amenities if I have to, go off into the wilderness...