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Well I finally got to see the kids for the holidays, I get them again from the 2nd till the 6th or 7th anyway. The mourning period is over and I think she sees it in me. When I went and got them with my father I think I said 5 words to her. She had a bunch of my stuff in her equinox in some old boxes and luggage. I said, don't start moving "stuff" just yet. Here's my question, we paid off the car in about 20 months, thanks to yours truly, our only debt is the mortgage, we pay off our CC every month which is approximately $800ish so she goes and buys a lawyer, files for divorce, and in the end adds $3000 to our usually bill before I can cancel the account. Now I don't want to pay that off since more than 2/3 is legal fees. My lawyer came out of a new account I had to start. When I pay the minimum the interest is about 21%. I've noted every payment amount and date but still. Any advice?
"Well he shoulda armed him self" William Munney-Unforgiven"
"You believe there is one God, that is good, even the demons believe and shudder in fear" James 2:19
"You believe there is one God, that is good, even the demons believe and shudder in fear" James 2:19
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Eating it will be mandatory on some things. You may or may not get to choose what ones. Arguing about it is not mandatory.
If you have not done so, you need to make sure your joint accounts are all closed....
Divorce can get damned expensive if you don't think ahead and protect yourself financially...and never rely on your soon to be exes "better nature" she ain't your friend no more..,
You're already got the advice I would give. But, for FWIW, a divorce is not the end of the world.
My first wife and I split after 17/18 years (separated after 17, but divorce wasn't final unit after 18). Our only child still at home was 13. At first, I thought it was the end of the world, but soon learned otherwise. I suspect you will too.
Think of it as a new beginning and hang in there.
Gun control laws make about as much sense as taking ex-lax to cure a cough.
I would contact the credit bureaus and put a "fraud alert" or credit freeze on them, so that the soon to be Ex can't open new credit cards in your name.
My wife learned that lesson when her ex stuck her with $20k in new credit card debt when he left
Ive not remarried, but relative peace and tranquility has replaced chaos, stress, and daily calamity.
"You believe there is one God, that is good, even the demons believe and shudder in fear" James 2:19
My ex and I shared the same lawyer...who told us when we met with us said "If you two can manage to be adults, this will be relatively painless and over in 6 months".... He did not lie...and charged me $600.00 for the entire ordeal...
Son that's somebody with nothing to do with his time but keep me in trouble with mom.
"You believe there is one God, that is good, even the demons believe and shudder in fear" James 2:19
My wife used to be a para-legal for an attorney. She has told me a number of times about one particular divorce in which the two parties fought tooth and nail over a roto-tiller. They spent more in attorney fees that 10 such roto-tillers.
The moral, of course, is to not let yourself get wrapped around the axle on small stuff out of spite. Some things just aren't worth fighting for.
Fortunately for me, when my first wife and I divorced, we worked out the property settlement ourselves. It helped me that she had already moved to Texas and was living with her soon to be next ex-husband, and I filed on her in Colorado. She wanted a speedy end so that she could remarry while she still had the next guy on the hook.
Gun control laws make about as much sense as taking ex-lax to cure a cough.
Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms and Explosives.... now who's bringing the hot wings? :jester:
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"You believe there is one God, that is good, even the demons believe and shudder in fear" James 2:19
We had a guy at work who was still on the job in his 80s simply to keep his ex from getting half of his retirement...
Divorce # 1, Florida, no alimony, gave her the house because of the kids, she had to make all payments, child support, gave her one car, and 1/4 of the bank account, I kept my truck, boats, and airplane, no access to my pension, in the end i ended up with custody of both kids.I had no attorney fees and didnt have to pay hers.
Divorce # 2, Wisconsin, She was working had her own pension, bank acct. and credit cards, made her keep them all in her name, she got her car, and nothing else, I kept the house. No attorneys involved.
Divorce # 3, Wisconsin, same as # 2 except because we lived together over 10 years she got $50,000 from the sale of the house, only had to pay my attorneys. fees about $4300. I kept the truck, trailer, 3 boats, all tools and guns etc.
The biggest thing I learned was that the courts take into consideration if she is was working before and worked thru the marriage and has her own bank account and credit cards.
JAY